Monday, May 5, 2014

Pay It Forward

I've learned early on that it is better to give than to receive. Because of this, I have always tried to lend a hand whenever possible. I used to think that the only way to lend a hand, to help the community, is either with time, such as volunteering, or using money to donate to a charity. I have volunteered at the library and I had been doing that for years, off and on. I would have volunteered at other places as well if I had a way to get there. I also had no money to donate to any charity either (and I still don't).

Fortunately, there are other ways to donate to a charity or to do something good for the community. During college, my sorority and I participated in the 5k run/walk for the American Heart Association. A year or so ago, I donated my hair to Locks of Love. A couple of weeks ago, I found some old cellphones that I still had around the house. I plan to donate those to a charity for domestic abuse victims. You can also donate cellphones to people that are in the Navy. You can also raise money for a charity by having fundraisers, or you can collect things for a charity. I have a friend who holds a food drive every year. There are people who uses Youtube or Twitch to do livestreams for charity. There are some celebrities who do good things for the community. You can do a google search to find out ways to donate, what charities to donate to, and/or what you can do for the community.

I would be careful though and do a lot of research on different charities, especially if you don't know the charity that well, because some of them may actually be scams that just want your money, either for personal reasons, or for reasons that you may not want to support. I have found a list for charities you can support, but like I said, do some research, but this may give you an idea of the kind of charities that are out there.

Here is the list:

I do have some favorite charities of my own that I support. Some of them are well-known, some may not be well-known, and there are a few local charities I support. Here are the links to those charities:

American Red Cross

The American Heart Association

St. Jude's Research Hospital

Locks of Love:

Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN)

Christopher and Dana Reeve Foundation

National Institute of Mental Health

American Library Association

Florida Library Association

I think that if we all did something good for the community, we could make the world a better place. There's a song that I have been listening to. The lyrics seems to descibe exactly the way I feel. I want to make a difference in the world. 

Until next time, God Bless.
- Chloe

Thursday, March 20, 2014

It's been awhile...

It's been a long time since my last post, and I apologize. It was not my intention to go this long without posting and I just thought I would at least post an update, to let you know what's been going on in my life.

Last October, a day after my last post, Oct 27th, windows would not load up. I got the dreaded blue screen of death. So, I was without a computer for awhile, at least for almost a month. After I got my laptop back, it was around Thanksgiving. I was gonna plan to take a break until just after New Year's Day, because I knew I'd be busy. So, sometime in January, two things happened. One, my hard-drive crashed. Two, I was starting to have some severe migraine episodes. They were so bad at one point, that I've had to go to the ER. So, because of my migraine episodes, fixing my computer would have to wait. I finally sent it in and it came back. Then, my computer broke again, so I had to take it back in. I finally received my computer the other day and I'm hoping that it does not break again.

*Knocks on wood*

Some people might think that migraines are just really bad headaches. They are not, and I just want to explain. Unless you actually, truly experience migraines, you cannot imagine the pain. If you know someone who experiences migraines, but you don't experience them yourself, you probably can understand what it's like for the person suffering from the migraines... maybe, depending on how close you are to that person and how much that person tells you and all that other stuff. 

Migraines are severe, painful headaches. 

Well, they're actually more than that. It is a neurological disease that is characterized by episodes known as migraine attacks. They are usually accompanied with other symptoms. The symptoms differ from person to person. Some of the symptoms can include: throbbing, pulsating pain, light sensitivity. Sound sensitivity, nausea, vomiting, vision changes, and auras. 

There are different things that can trigger a migraine, like stress, loud noises and/or bright lights, weather, during menstrual cycles and/or hormone fluctuations, etc. Avoiding the triggers does not prevent migraines though. Sometimes, they are random. People suffering from migraines have different triggers. 
There are treatments for migraines. The treatments that can help differ from person to person. I do what I can to get rid of these migraines, but just because something works for me, doesn't mean it will work for someone else, and vice versa. There are quite a bit of treatment options that are available. Most of them, I did not even know about, so I will provide a direct link to what I've found:

I have found a website that explains more about migraines and has more information on the symptoms, triggers, treatments, etc:

And I have also found a video which basically sums everything up:

I am hoping that I have shed a little more light on the topic of migraines.

I hope you all are well, and until next time, God bless.

- Chloe

Friday, August 30, 2013

Children with Disabilities being abused in schools

Remember when I talked about a young boy named Akian? He was being bullied by his teachers? Do you remember me talking about the abuse of children with disabilities at the Judge Rotenberg Education Center (JRC)?

Here are the links to those to entries:

I feel stupid; I had originally thought these two stories were isolated incidents. Unfortunately, they are not isolated incidents, and with that being said, I feel I need to speak up about this. All of this, every single story I have heard is very disturbing, and I’ve heard so many stories, it’s unbelievable! The amount of abuse I have heard about in the past year is horrifying. What’s scary is that the schools try to cover it up. I will show you a couple of the stories I have found. Please note: The stories may be hard to read.

Here, Jacob Garcia, a 7 year old student with special needs, was abused by the principal and a security guard. He was found on the side of the street where they had found him. They violently assaulted the child and took him back to school where they restrained him using Velcro straps. They claimed that Jacob tried to commit suicide by jumping in front of traffic. All he was trying to do was to go home in the middle of the day, there’s no excuse for assaulting the kid and restraining him. Besides, this begs the question, how did he get out of the school unnoticed anyways? I know a school for kids with disabilities, some do wander, and I know they have locks on the doors so they won’t get out of the school unnoticed, so I don’t see how this could have happened unless they were just not paying attention.

There is a school for children with disabilities, Katy ISD's Exley Elementary School. The children that attend there have severe disabilities and have been emotionally and physically abused. There was one teacher that was terminated. There were a couple of teachers who were charged, but the charges were dropped. There was one child who tried to commit suicide because he was scared. He wasn’t scared of the students; he was scared of the teachers! He was scared of the very people who were supposed to protect him, teach him, and not abuse him!

Here’s something else that’s very troubling about this. Some of the students are non-verbal and are unable to talk about what happened to them. Some of the students are able to talk but are afraid to talk. These teachers are bullies and there should be no tolerance for any kind of bullying. Not only that, these teachers are supposed to be professionals and I have to say, abusing their students are far from professionals. These stories I’ve shown and the stories I’ve talked about before don’t even begin to scratch the surface. Here is an article that lists the schools that have a history of abusing children with disabilities.

I have seen a Facebook page suggesting that we should put video cameras in the classrooms. I actually think it’s a great idea, considering how many schools actually have a history of abuse towards children with disabilities. Here is the Facebook page I am referring to

And there is a page suggesting that we put video cameras on school buses.

Schools are supposed to be a safe place, but unfortunately, there are schools where students are not only bullied by students, but their own teachers as well. Should we have video cameras in classrooms and school buses? I think so. 

Until next time, God Bless. 
- Chloe

Monday, August 26, 2013

On abuse and neglect towards people with disabilities...

It is far too often that I come across a story where someone with a disability is abused and neglected. It’s unbelievable! I have found stories of parents or caretakers abusing and neglecting children and adults with disabilities. Warning: The stories I am sharing may be hard for some people to read.

Here is a story about how 36 year old Sakinah was tied to a bed, naked, in her caretaker’s home. She was found with sores all over her body and was very thin. Sakinah has Schizophrenia and a mental capacity of a 10 year old.

Here is a story about a young woman who had been left in a hot car by her mother. Her name is Rebecca and she has Cerebral Palsy and cannot communicate. She weighed only 55 pounds.

These stories are still developing, but I hope that both stories end with a happy ending. Unfortunately, there are some cases that end in tragedy. For instance, a little girl named Aliyah was born with several disabilities and her mother neglected to provide for her needs. Not only that, child services had failed to protect this young girl before she was killed by her mother. Here is a link to the story, but again, a warning that this may be hard for some of you to read.

Abuse, in general, is very disturbing. I have never understood why people would abuse another person. There is another story I have recently heard about. The ignorance of this one person is so thick; you could cut it with a knife. There was a family who received a letter that targeted a teenager with Autism. His name is Max. A woman who claimed to be a mother living in the neighborhood sent Max’s grandmother a hate-filled letter telling her to either move or euthanize the teen. Police are saying that this is not a hate crime. If this is not a hate crime, then I don’t know what is. This is a hate crime! I am providing a link to the story so you can see for yourself. The link also includes a copy of the letter. Warning: There are some very strong words said in the letter, including the R-Word.

I think we all need to try to understand these people that have disabilities instead of being so judgmental. They did not ask for these disabilities. They deal with them the best they can. They need our love, our patience, our support. They don’t need people telling them that they’re worthless. Here’s a newsflash for you, they are not worthless! I also think we need to protect those with disabilities, so they won’t be abused, neglected, or murdered by those that are supposed to care for them. 

I hope that we can get some justice for these people.

Until next time, God Bless
- Chloe 

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Please, don’t use the ‘R’ word

There are some people who may not know how hurtful that word is. I hate saying that word, I hate hearing or seeing that word, I just hate that word. I’ve been called that word so many times and it hurts. I have had friends who have been called that word. Some people may not know how hurtful that can be. Okay, I’m gonna make a few people mad, but you know what, to those who would be mad at me for this, you don’t know how hurtful this word can be. There’s this saying, sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me. That’s not true. Words do hurt. By the way, it doesn’t matter how you use it, I know what you mean when you use that word, but it is still offensive. It is just as offensive as using a racial slur.

For those who are not sure what word I am talking about, here is a link:

I want to encourage you to click the link above and understand why this word is so hurtful. Here are a couple of news articles that were included in the link above:

The first link I provided also includes a few videos explaining the R word and why we should not use that word. I hope that someone would learn something from this post.

Until next time, God Bless.
- Chloe

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Bacon is the secret to a long, happy life?

I saw this article yesterday; a 105 year old woman claims that bacon is the secret to a long, happy life. She loves bacon; she eats it every day and at every meal.

Here is the article:

Bacon is, as a friend of mine would say, a BIG smile. Bacon makes everything better, right? I’ll be honest though, I’m not sure I’d recommend eating it every day at every meal. I think bacon in moderation is okay, though. I’m not sure what the secret to a long, happy life is, I don’t think anyone does, but sometimes I do hear people claiming that something is the secret to a long, happy life or a long, healthy life. I once heard someone say that butter is the secret to a long, happy life. I know someone who said a beer a day is the secret to a long, healthy life. I also know someone who says a glass of wine every day is the secret to a long, healthy life. I honestly don’t think any of that is really true and I would also like to recommend that you not touch alcohol. I’ve seen what it does to people, especially if someone is an alcoholic. If you do drink, please don’t drink just to get drunk and please, don’t ever drink and drive.

I think we should all just stick to the food pyramid (or the food plate?). I found some guidelines that gives more detail about being healthy (pictured below):

Note: The picture above may be hard to read. Click the link below to see an enlarged copy of this photo.

Of course, I know there are people, who either have a gluten free diet, has food allergies, or is a vegetarian or vegan, etc. That’s not my point. This is just a basic guideline for us to be healthy.

There are some foods that are actually super-foods. What are super-foods? They are powerhouse types of foods that are loaded with nutrients that are crucial to living a long, healthy life. There are several super-foods that are not only loaded with nutrients; I’ve heard that some of them can also help with your moods. For instance, dark chocolate is good for if you’re feeling depressed. There’s just so much information out there, I found one website that has a lot of information about the super-foods.

Here is the website:

Also, did you know that exercising is not only a great way to get fit, but it can also make you feel better? For me, either working out at a gym or taking a walk while playing my music does wonders. I call it a natural high because it instantly makes me feel better. Thirty minutes of exercise can be enough to lift those moods up temporarily. This can be just as effective as an antidepressant. Please note that this is not a replacement for therapy, but it can help when you are trying to recover from depression.

So, I don’t know the secret of a long, healthy life, I just know that these things I listed can help you to have a long, healthy life.

Until next time, God Bless.
- Chloe

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

The Benefits of Counseling and Therapy

For years, I have been crying out for help. I have been crying out for help since I was 14 years old. That’s when my depression started. I knew I needed help. I had been suicidal on and off since I was 16. We never found a good counselor, until I went to college. After college, I was told we could not afford another counselor. Unfortunately, I’m still crying out for help, I know I need help, I just have no way of getting the help that I need.

I may not be able to get the help that I need, but I still want to encourage those who may need to get the help that they need to go get some help. Did you know that 1 in 4 people have a mental illness? I know there’s some stigma to mental illness. You probably think people may think you are insane. You probably think you’re insane. I know the feeling as I have a mental illness as well. Trust me when I say, you are not insane. You are not alone. If you think you cannot be helped, that is not true. No one is beyond the point where they cannot be helped.

I know what some of you are probably thinking. You feel like you cannot be helped or even if you feel you’re willing to try, you might be hesitant. Why? There could be a number of reasons. Maybe you’ve had bad experiences, maybe it’s hard to trust someone, or maybe just trying to find a good counselor is just so overwhelming, you do not know where to start. I feel I should really stress this, if you feel you are a danger to yourself or others and/or if you are suicidal, let someone know, get some help, call 911 if you have to, call a crisis hotline, I will give you a link to some crisis hotlines in this post, just do not ever try to commit suicide.

Going to therapy is a very good thing. Going to therapy does not mean they just push more medications on you. I’m not saying that’s good or bad, medications are not in my area of expertise, my point is, there are other options that people may or may not know about, but they still include getting professional help. There are other therapies out there that may help in your situation.

I did a little research to give you some good links to check out. This first link lists all the types of therapies and it has links in that page for you to learn more about the types of therapies.

This second link shows you how therapy can help and gives you tips on how to find a good therapist.

I know, I know, these two links have a lot of information, right? It seems overwhelming, doesn’t it? I cannot suggest one therapy over another because everyone is unique. One therapy may work for one person but not for the next. It is up to you to look through this information and get some help.

If you’re not sure where to look or what to do next, how about asking someone you trust to help you search for a good counselor? You may find a good counselor that you trust on the first, second, or third try or you may not find one until your tenth try, just don’t give up, it’ll be worth it.

One other thing, I want to talk about emotional support. If you know someone is depressed or anxious, don’t just brush it off. It can be hard to support someone like this, but that’s a true test in life, that friends and/or family members are willing to not give up on each other, no matter what. And to those who are depressed or anxious, I encourage you to talk to those you trust, ask them to help you. If you need help but you're not sure where to go from there, talk to a friend, a family member, or someone you trust. Ask them to help you find a good therapist. It may help to have someone go with you, for moral support.

Here is a link to a crisis hotline that you can call. It is available 24/7 and when you call, you will be able to reach a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center near your area and it is free. But I strongly suggest that you do not use this as a replacement to therapy.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that you are not alone. There is someone out there who cares. I'm probably just a stranger to most of my readers here, but even of you think there’s no one in your life that cares, I care. I really do. This is why I do this, I’m bringing the information to you, because I care, very much, and I know how it feels, I've been there.

Until next time, God bless.
- Chloe